i get annoyed that chris wants to wait until he's done with school to get married. he always tells me that it'll be about 6 years until he's done with school and to me, that's too long.whenever we talk about it, it seems like he won't change his mind about that. he wants to wait and i understand his reasonings but it seems like he is set on not getting married until he's done with school. it's like he doesn't think he can get a job and support a wife until he's graduated from college and has a job.
i think that a huge part of it is his family. they don't want him getting a job, so he's not going to. they expect him to live there forever and take care of them, and that's probably what will happen. then i come into his life and want things differently. i don't want to live with his family forever. obviously i don't mind him taking care of them, i would do the same for my family. but when we first get married i want us to have our own place where we can raiser our kids together and not with 3 other peoples input all the time. he also promised them that he wouldn't get married until he's done with school. personally, i would never promise anyone that.
another part of it is that he has his set ways and doesn't want to change them. he's told me before that he likes who he is and he isn't willing to change it. i don't think he understands that a relationship is a lot of give and take, but he's not always willing to give.
he knows that i'm frustrated with him and tonight he'll say that i need to not let it get to me and ruin my day like i always let it do. and i'll just sit there and nod my head and let him talk away until he doesn't want to talk about it anymore.
it's frustrating because i guess i don't know how to explain it to him that i want things a different way than he does. i don't want to wait 6 years to get married. i don't want to wait that long to start a family and to be with him. i was thinking oh i'll move out there and i'll be out there for a year then we'll probably get engaged. but it's definitely not looking like that.
i told him that it's his choice. he's the one doing the asking and so i guess it's ultimately up to him. it is really frustrating and i know that if i want to stay with him and be with him forever, than i'm gonna have to live with not getting married for a few years because it's not what he wants.
